Someone else cannot motivate you. Motivation comes from within. However, that does not mean that help someone find his or her inner motivation. Only when you focus on the other person rather than what you won’t will you start to see results with other people.
Start with yourself. And to be specific start with the WHY. Frankly, if you do not have the WHY the HOW will not matter. Motivation and goal achievement are interrelated. Knowing what motivates you is a key to achievement and knowing how to find motivation in others is a key to leadership. Dwight Eisenhower said that leadership is getting others to do what you want because THEY want to do it. Reach down and find that motivation and bring it to the surface.
Find your passion. If you are not what you are passionate about start by doing a dream inventory. List every dream you have. Then determine which ones are most important. Think about why and what they will do for you. How strong is your why?
Find the why that is strong enough that you are emotionally attached to the goal of achieving it. Many people want something but then their subconscious says, “Yeah right that will never happen.” So, they reason, “I will try but I don’t want to set myself up for disappointment if I fail.” They have created the out. But wait, what are the consequences if you fail? They could be major.
Your desire for gain is only one side of the goal achievement process. Think about a time when you did something to avoid a loss. The threat of loss is, many times, a more powerful motivator than the opportunity for gain. If you have a strong passion for achievement of your goal AND failure is not an option, then you are motivated to achieve. So find your passion and follow your dream and you will know WHY.
THE HOW... consider all possible obstacles and for every obstacle consider all possible solutions. What is the greatest obstacle? In other words, what obstacle if eliminated would greatly facilitate the achievement of your goal? Now, go ahead and set up an action plan to remove the obstacle and achieve.
This is not going to be easy. It will require changing habits and they are never easy to change. A habit keeps us in a comfort zone. We must have a greater reward to establish a new habit. That reward will help us to replace the old habit with a new one which will yield a new and greater reward. If you are passionate about what you are doing, follow these steps. You will see a difference.
This same process can be used to help others find their motivation and lead them to achievement of goals. Help them find their why, and their benefits and consequences. This will help them find their motivation to achieve their goals. Funny how motivation and goals work.
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